I think about spoon theory often, as it is such a good way to describe those periods of time when everything is too much and I don't have enough energy (physical, mental, emotional, theoretical) to do even the most minor things.
I often say I need to "go under the bed," but in reality, I go into my cavendish space.
Autistic people are not short of energy in some vague way. We are spending it on things that other people get for free. Processing sensory input in environments that are too loud, too bright and too bus
Masking: monitoring our faces, voices, bodies and interests so that we pass as neurotypical. Coping with uncertainty, transitions and change. Executive tasks such as starting, stopping, sequencing and switching, which can cost more than the task itself.
That is why so many Autistic children hold it together all day and fall apart at home, and why so many Autistic adults have nothing left for friends, hobbies or self-care by the evening.
Cavendish Space is a psychologically and sensory safe environment where people can focus, rest, collaborate on their own terms, and shape their surroundings together.
Most environments are not built for us. Schools, workplaces, and public spaces are designed for a norm that excludes neurodivergent and disabled people by default — too loud, too crowded, too socially demanding, too rigid in how and when participation is expected
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